As the parents of three beautiful children (ages 10mo, 10yr and 14yr) we only came to know the challenges and joys of parenthood through adoption. Three loving young women, mature beyond their age, chose to be selfless and take that road less traveled, in the belief that “the good” would come from putting the need of a child before their own. Our adoptions were not traditional in the sense that we met with our birth mothers and spoke with them before our children were even born. This is called an open adoption and it freaks people out, but it shouldn’t. Nothing has blessed us or our children more. Certainly, nothing has given us more compassion and empathy for the aching hearts of birth mothers. All mothers are in our prayers, but we especially pray for women considering adoption as a positive alternative to abortion.
This all seemed like fading memories as our kids (and us as well) were getting older and our thoughts of preparing them for college loomed on the horizon. Although we always wanted more kids, the process can be less than inspiring. Long ago we resigned ourselves to the notion that we wouldn’t actively pursue adoption again, but that we wouldn’t turn down the chance if God brought someone to our doorstep. We continued to advocate for adoption, pray for birth mothers, and speak up for respect for life where ever the opportunity allowed. Then one day God brought someone to our doorstep. The question was asked of us, and so we prayed about it. This prayerful consideration led us to Catholic Charities and a fiery angel who was a blessing not only to us, but to the birth mother of our new little one too.
It was obvious from the beginning that, our Social Worker/Case Manager, Deb, did not view adoption as a transaction.
Deb showed a deep concern for what our birth mom was about to face and always went the extra mile to make sure that her emotional needs were met in the best way possible. What impresses us most is even after our adoption was finalized, Deb continues to take time to check on our son’s birth mom to make sure that she is progressing in a healthy manner. This compassionate concern goes beyond what is expected and is a welcome change from experiences of years gone by. Praise the Lord and thank God for Deb Wentz and the work she does for those in need in Lorain County.
Christ reminds us “whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me (Matthew 18:5).” Adoption is one of the most purest forms of charity – we are so honored that it has been a part of our tradition since (before) day-one! Click here to learn more about our adoption services. Click here for information on our Foster Care services.